Generally, in England the church conducts religious ceremonies. Alternatively, a registrar conducts civil ceremonies. Each are conducted with specific rules. Furthermore, both are recognised as legally binding. However, in England independent ceremonies are currently not recognised as legally binding. As a result, they have no rules. So, independent ceremonies and weddings have no rules about how they are conducted. As a result you have complete flexibility to craft your unique independent ceremony. Specifically, it reflect your beliefs, values and personalities.